Wednesday, September 19, 2012

Homeward Bound

The Fall has always been my favorite season. I love the changing leaves, the cooler weather, pumpkins, and all of the fun that fall brings. Since it is my favorite time of year, I tend to plan things of significance in the fall. I had a wedding, a baby, a blog launch, and a move all happen in the Fall.

Just two days ago we packed our house, pugs, and family and moved from Phoenix to San Diego. It's something we always knew we would do, but it was a bit of a last minute surprise. We had just 5 weeks notice that The Captain would be transferring jobs. It was rough waters, for sure. Ok, it was a stressful hell and I never want to do it again. But the worst is over, and we once again have our family near.

After our First Mate was born, the distance between us and our family seemed to stretch much further than a six hour drive. There was no one to call to watch the baby so I could take a nap. There was no one to invite us over for dinner so I wouldn't have to cook and do the dishes. That was the problem, there was no one. We were alone.

This distance from family never seemed more evident than after a trip to San Diego for The Captain's birthday. He even interviewed for a position out there to transfer to. We had a great time with our families, but it had to come to an end. Just a matter of days after we got home the rest of The Captain's family flew to Kansas to visit his Grandma, Aunts, Uncles and Cousins. We were never invited. I have never had the chance to meet The Captain's Grandma on that side of his family. I missed my opportunity to meet his Grandfather, as he passed years ago. Pictures were posted of the family reunion and all the fun being had, but we were left out of it all. Then, just a week or so later, another get together for the other side of the family. It started to feel like out of sight, out of mind. The final blow was the news that he was not going to transfer this year and we would have to wait until the next year.

We were back to our lonesome existence in Arizona and the nonexistence of our bank account. Another downside to being alone was childcare. It was expensive to pay someone to watch the First Mate while we were at work. The Captain and I worked opposite shifts and had different days off so we would only need a nanny for about 18 hours a week. We'd come home from work and be alone again, not even seeing each other. Something needed to change, or we would run out of money and options.

Just as I was getting comfortable with the reality that Arizona was going to be my lonesome desert home for sometime, SURPRISE! We got the news that a position was opening up in September, just a few weeks ago. We jumped on the opportunity, and called our parents first. My Mother shouted to complete strangers "My daughter is moving back home!" and The Captain's Mom cried, of course. However, the excitement quickly dissipated as we realized the tasks ahead.

In just five weeks I took on my full time job, packing, putting a house up for sale, planning a first birthday party, launching a blog, and being a mom. I still have unpacking and finding someone to watch The First Mate while we are at work, but we made it. Did I mention I never want to do this again? But in the end, it was worth it. There is truly nothing better than coming home...for good.


  1. So happy to have you home. Sorry you were so lonely and had to endure the hardship of moving, I know how that is. Now just let me know how I can help you with the First Mate! XOXO!

  2. We are happy to be home too. I may need help selling a baby bjorn, just bought an ergo on baby steals and need to get some cash to justify it.


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