Monday, December 3, 2012

NEVERland

neverland by Eleonora Gianinetto CC 2.0

There are so many things you swear you'll never do as a parent, then you have kids. Once you actually become a parent, things change. In fact, that is the first thing you swore you wouldn't do, change.

Perhaps it's payback for all those times I thought, "I'll NEVER do that!" Maybe it's just a natural part of parenting, realizing you knew nothing about raising a human.

Here are some of the things I find myself doing that I vowed not to do as a parent.

Let The First Mate watch TV
I swore he wouldn't watch a thing for the first two years. FAIL. It started with me watching TV during nursing sessions, his back was turned, so he wasn't really watching it. Then, you get more and more sleep deprived. This clouds your judgement and decision making. This is when turning on Mickey Mouse Clubhouse lets you get another 30 minutes to be a zombie on the couch. Then you discover that Sesame Street actually makes your son happy and he gives the best snuggles while you watch it. Besides, I love TV.

Breastfeeding past (insert age here)
I knew nearly nothing about Breastfeeding before being pregnant. I think I had that all to common idea that there was a certain cut off age where nursing should stop. Looking back I couldn't even tell you what that age or timeline was. That thought doesn't even make sense to me anymore. Now I am more educated on this. I know that the WHO recommends breastfeeding until at least 2 years. I also know that the average weaning age worldwide is somewhere between 2-7 and that breast milk never stops being beneficial. That  being said, I won't be nursing until 7, I don't think I could take it that long.

Cloth Diapering
I don't think I was even really aware of modern cloth diapers until I was well on the way to becoming a mom. However, I did think that the old cloth diapers were a thing of the past and I would never have to deal with that. Even once I researched cloth diapers and realized it was the thing for me, I had boundaries. I said no to prefolds, now I love them. I though pockets would be a pain in the anchor to stuff/unstuff. Almost my entire stash is pockets. I never imagined asking for diapers as a gift, let alone being excited about them.

Bedshare (Co-sleep)
I still struggle with this one. I was certain I wouldn't let The First Mate sleep in our bed. I was afraid it would become a habit too hard to break and that it would put stress on The Captain and I. Then I had a baby and discovered I needed sleep, and if that was the only way to get it, then so be it. We still don't co-sleep entirely. Just when we need a nap or I can't bear to get up one more time and go into the nursery.

Baby Led Weaning
This wasn't even on my radar until late in the game, like once I already had a baby. It wasn't that I never would do it, it was that I didn't know I could. For those of you that don't know what BLW is, let me clue you in. It is the practice of letting your baby feed themselves. It focuses on finger-sized foods that the baby can easily pick up and feeding them foods from your plate. No purees or jarred baby food, just healthy food that you eat. I really recommend looking into it. The First Mate did so well and he loves to eat. 

There are still so many things that I haven't yet experienced in parenting. I imagine there will be much more added to this list as time goes on. 

What's on your NEVER list? Share in the comments below.



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