Friday, April 25, 2014

Blogging Identity Crisis

Last month I attended The SITS Girls Women Get Social Conference (my first blogging conference) and had a wonderful time. It was great to meet others who understand the world of blogging. I learned so much from the both the speakers and the other conference goers. I expected all of this going into the conference.

Photo courtesy of Danielle Simmons
What I didn't expect was to have an identity crisis. On the end of day one, Fawn Weaver  asked us to close our eyes and envision our blogging goal, where we see ourselves going, essentially. I stared at the back of my eyelids with an abundance of thoughts swirling and just couldn't hone in on one. Fawn's talk was extremely powerful and I'm so glad to have seen her speak. However, I left feeling a bit lost and confused about my place in the blogging world.


I have always struggled with the idea of "niche" blogging. This is your expertise or category of blogging. Such as food, crafts, fitness, or even more specific like, mountain biking or something. Right now my niche is lifestyle. This basically means I blog about everything my lifestyle contains. Yeah, it's pretty broad and only other bloggers really understand this when you give it as an answer to "So, what's your blog about?" That's a question I discovered I dreaded. That's probably not a good sign.

One of a Kind: Most Unique Yearbook winners.
That's me with the pink tutu and tie. I still agree with what I wrote too. Do what makes you happy and accept others.
Maybe it's because I never liked labels. I have always said "I'm not weird, I have character" but now I realize I am also weird, but that's fine by me. If everyone likes something, I usually distance myself from it. (I've never seen Titanic or The Matrix, for example) I was most voted Most Unique in High School. I have had early every hair style and color you can think of. I gave myself (kickass) One Direction nails and I am thirty years old. I am okay with the things that make me ME. 

My first attempt at One Direction nails

That's where this blogging identity crisis becomes a crisis. How can I set boundaries on the blog, my section of the interwebs? If I focus on one niche, I feel I am not showing my full self. I am labeling myself and in a sense, stifling other parts of me. I have changed and grown as a person in the past year and a half since starting this blog, and I will continue to do so. Shouldn't my blog reflect those changes? Shouldn't my blog show who I am so people can feel a connection with me? Seriously, I'm asking for answers to these questions. I'm in crisis mode here people.

I have gained followers, albeit a small amount, and I sometimes feel that I can't just change my blog's focus on them. They signed up as reader for one thing, but maybe not the next. Will one day of crazy toddler stories and the next day an in depth analysis on what Harry Styles' hair smells like (didn't write it, but tempted) really keep this whole blog going?

Even adding in my weight loss posts has been a struggle because it has really become a big part of Pirate Prerogative's content and message. But, I would never leave that part out. It is HUGE in who I am as a person and a big part of my success is in making my progress public.

If I were to list my interests, this is what I'd get as a starting point:

Parenting/Toddlers
Weight Loss/Health
Cooking (love cooking, HATE blogging about it)
Funny Observations
Green Living
One Direction (yes, it makes the list)
How I Wish I Was Crafty 

I'd totally read that blog. Well I wouldn't, because I pretty much have no time for reading the blogs I intend to. But if I made time I would. Time is a serious blogging battle. That lists seems easy and specific enough to focus on, but there is so much involved in each post. I find that I talk myself out of writing because of all the work and the thought that it will all suck. 

Putting pen to paper is tough without inspiration.

So, where I'm at in this whole blog thing is a loss for inspiration. I have slightly withdrawn from my blogger duties of sharing my posts and engaging on social media. Doing those things is a reminder that I'm so freakin' confused. I do not like reminding myself of this. 

I also need to build my traffic, but that's difficult for many reasons. 

1. You need content to create traffic
2. You need to know who your reader is to reach them
3. You need to work hard getting your content out there
4. Time. Always time.  

Any thoughts or advice is welcome. 

I don't plan on making my exit. I still like it here. I hope you still like it here too, even if I change it up. 

In the words of Bobby Brown, "It's my prerogative."

10 comments:

  1. I know exactly what you mean! I thought my blog was going to be more focused on story telling and yet somehow I have become a craft blogger. I think the good thing is that if readers like you and they like your voice, they will follow you along on your journey. Best of luck!! --Elena (acasarella.net)

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  2. while all of your "thankfuls" are inspiring, I can totally relate to being continually self-impressed by managing not to punch anyone at work. kudos! 👏👏👏

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  3. thoughts:
    1. you are amazing (I may be biased) & so is your blog, so don't be discouraged/overwhelmed. other people will soon find/know/LOVE your amazing-mess
    2.where is that awesome pic/quote of you in a tie & tutu from? yearbook?
    3. I don't know much (anything) about blogging, but why can't your blog focus be "the life of Elizabeth Bruno?" that seems relatable to me! so I'm sure it will find it's own niche.
    4. with a commitment to 30 days of blogging, I have a feeling I'll be reading a post about the scent of Harry Styles hair sometime in the next month.
    5. you are a fabulous writer! even if you don't always have the energy to create blog posts, you should continue to write. journals, tweets, letters (old-school, I know) anything!

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  4. That is certainly one all my retail friends can relate to.

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  5. Thanks incredibly biased sibling. I could never get much into the journaling, It's the perfectionist/OCD in me. If I messed up a line I would have to start over so the page looked clean and then my thoughts wouldn't flow the same. If I lost my exact pen, the journal was wasted. Who can we blame for our wonderful "character" traits?

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  6. All the good blogs go through a blogging crisis at some point, right?

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  7. I'm so not crafty and am with ya on the fact that whatever is important to you to share is what will resonate with your readers - as ultimately it is you VOICE and SHARED interests that bring your readers back.

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  8. I think it's inevitable for bloggers to go through this because we all change and evolve, so why shouldn't our blogs? Thanks for the support.

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  9. Don't worry! I am still in suffering from this, LOL! I envy those who have it down to a tee...one day it will come I keep saying, and I believe it. But think of all the other opportunities that come around when you're a blogger? Meeting great people, attending conferences, improving your writing, discovering new interests...the list goes on. I started one too many blogs and only have so much time for them. I think for me, what draws people in is the honesty in a post. The more vulnerable I am, the more comments and reads I get....like what you just did here ;) Good luck. I believe in you!

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  10. Thank you Angela. You're right, I have gained so much from the blogging experience already. It is hard to keep up with all that blogging entails and things can just get lost in that whole process. I'm huge on being honest, and always make it a point to be so on the blog.

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